Put your phone away. Look around you and be present in the moment. Our smartphones are phenomenal devices. We have little computers in our pockets that can tell us where we can find the nearest hip coffee shop, reactions to President Trump’s latest tweet, and the wedding photos of your Facebook friend you haven’t seen since college. We have unlimited information literally in our pockets.
However, this unlimited access to information causes us to constantly feel we need more and we never seem to be satisfied. I find myself pulling my phone out in the elevator because I can’t stand the fact that I will be doing nothing for the next 12 seconds. Really, Austin? And don’t get me started on social media. Ok, you got me started. Unlimited access to social media gives us the illusion that all other people have it all figured out, are always on vacation, and always getting a promotion. Social media is not reality. Social media is a reflection of everyone on their best behavior. Social media does not usually capture the breakup, the having to stay at the office until midnight to finish a project, or being stuck on the toilet after eating something you shouldn’t have at Taco Bell. Social media can give us the empty feeling that others are happy, healthy, and looking great while we are on the phone arguing with Bank of America about the $12 maintenance fee charged to your account for no reason.
Unlimited access to information on our phones can be a very good thing. However, it can also be detrimental to deep, focused work and prevent us from being present in the moment and enjoying the stuff that really matters – like spending time with family, our kids, our purpose, and just enjoying the outdoors.
How often do you get lost scrolling Instagram and then wonder what you have been doing for the last 45 minutes? I’ve done this more than I’d like to admit. What’s interesting is when we really think about it, we don’t like having Instagram or Facebook controlling our lives the way they seem to do. We want to have the last 45 minutes back.
Practice limiting your social media usage. Try deleting all social media apps and limit yourself to social media one or two days per week from your laptop. You can still keep up with your friends’ lives but this will eliminate your constant need to check your phone for no reason other than boredom.
I was recently in line at chipotle (ok fine this is multiple times per week) and I noticed a little boy with a bag over his head performing in front of the whole line. His parents were at a nearby table heads both lowered, scrolling each of their phones paying no attention to their son, clearly seeking attention and approval. We all do this though.
Be present with the real human beings around you. And remember, not only is allowing yourself to be bored a good thing, it gives you silence and clarity to reflect on your purpose and the steps you should take to get to where you are being called to be.
Put your phone away. Delete your social media apps from your phone. Turn off the noise. Declutter your digital life. Hear your thoughts, be ok with silence, and enjoy the stuff that matters – quality time with friends and family. You won’t have these opportunities forever.